I can still hear the click-click-click of her flip-flops as she swayed down the hallway. I can see her clear as day, in her white blouse and long wrap-around Thai skirt. Early every morning she would sweep, tirelessly and somehow gracefully, every inch of the house’s teak floor. She would do the laundry, some by hand in a bucket, suds flowing down the pavement beside her while she scrubbed. She rhythmically ironed all of the clothes. She would cook fantastic meals and she would wash the dishes by hand. She seemed content and always had a joking remark at the ready. She had warm eyes, a wide smile and a wicked sense of humor. She was Thongsuk, our maid in Thailand.
All of the foreign families had maids in Thailand, and likely many of the Thai families did too. But Thongsuk was exceptional. Only as an adult do I now realize that she personified the Buddhist ideal of accepting what is. As an elementary-school-aged-child I only knew she was authentic and warm – genuine and funny.
In the afternoons I would meander out to the backyard where I would find Thongsuk. With a sideways glance and a mischievous glint in her eye she would respond, “You have eye!” to my very American greeting, “What are you doing?” Perhaps feeling low due to being deemed “too skinny” during the school day, my latest schoolgirl crush not noticing me, or any other such youthful worries, she never failed to cheer me up and put things in perspective through her presence alone.
Some days I would retreat to her kitchen and sit with her while she worked. I would happily eat the crunchy little fish that she set in front of me with their heads still intact while she bustled about getting that night’s dinner prepared for us. I was fascinated by her little altar to Buddha in her modest maid’s quarters. I felt instantly at peace when I was with her. She was inspiring at a time when I did not know what it meant to be inspired. She was my friend – I loved her.
As an adult, I find myself frequently channeling my Inner Thongsuk. I myself can be extremely restless and distracted. I am always working on a new project and don’t feel content unless I am creating and moving on to the next thing. But I have realized that the secret to being happy is to accept what is. I find peace in having no, or low expectations. I practice being present in mundane chores. I actually enjoy washing dishes by hand and cooking large meals.
This is not to say that you shouldn’t have goals and work toward accomplishing them. Thongsuk had an outside life that I knew almost nothing about. I’m sure she had her own worries, goals and struggles. But in today’s productivity-obsessed, fake-positivity-spewing world, how many people do you know who are truly happy or content? My experience is that most people in the United States seem pretty darn miserable.
Expectation is the root of all heartache. Desire is the root of all suffering. The quotations abound. That’s correct, the secret to being happy is to anticipate nothing. If restlessness, unhappiness and misery is all you have to lose, why not give it a try? You just might find your Inner Thongsuk.
lesley ann brandt naked how to hive a hand job pornoespresso.net realistic step mom porn hidden cam massage asian, skip the games greenville sc sara malakul lane nude pornsexnxx.net star wars porn game brother bangs the bride to be rae lil black
lesbian porn in stockings taliya and gustavo porn xnnx.vip sexy naked older women mom and son porn videos, one piece yamato porn older man free porn cuckoldwife.win skip the games wilmington nc kendra spade pure taboo, the loud house rule 34 marge simpson porn comic xxxfreeporn.win himawari wa yoru ni saku gay demon slayer porn
grand ma big tits cumming in wifes mouth xxnxporn.vip step mom sucks cock jav with eng sub, bryce dallas howard tits best porns of all time pornovideos.win porn japanese big tits asian porn in public, sakusei byoutou the animation lily from at&t naked xbideo.win the best celebrity tits road to el dorado porn
meikoku gakuen jutai hen mommy son porn videos realcuckoldporn.com gta 5 sex mod mom and son share bed porn, carmen electra onlyfans leaks chennel west coast naked amerturporn.com skylar vox your roommates girl massage parlour with happy endings, gay porn free list amanda seyfried sex tape milfamatuerporn.com big boobs porn videos broth and sister porn
son cuming in mom nude jennifer aniston photos xnnx.work squirting for first time karlee grey step sis, drea di matteo nude cogiendo a mi amiga xnxxteen.work the hun's yellow pages massage with happy ending, amourath only fans leak star vs the forces of evil porn comics teenporn.work big tit ebony milf sexy naked hot men